I haven't been able to write anything because I've chosen to be annoyed lately. Sometimes people annoy me and I sit and think about it, more than I should! It may be something said, done, or observed and I chose to let it bug me. Not a good idea. All it has done, was make me unhappy, judgmental, angry, or agitated, nothing I am proud of.
So one of my goals in life is, to not keep score of others around me. I know it may be hard if you have that competitive spirit in you, but remember that you may be the only one competing! To me, that assures you some loss. Whether it be loss of time, friends, or emotions on something that does not make much of a difference in the long run. Or it may make a difference in the long run, because if choosen to let it bother you, it can become poisonous inside; consuming your time and energy.
Life is too short! If we spend our time thinking about how others may have hurt us, done something wrong, not done enough for you, whatever it is that is bugging you, you waste time that you could be enjoying with your husband, children, family or friends. Think how pleasant life could be if we thought of the blessings God has given us.
I started writing this entry the other day and decided to choose to enjoy more of my life by not worrying, getting annoyed, keeping score, or dwelling on others actions and I have enjoyed the extra time I have had. I'm definately not perfect, I did catch myself talking about others, and all I can say is that it only made me feel bad at the end of the day. There's no reason for that! Decide to dwell on the simple and good things in life....there is a lot of that out there!
Thursday, June 24, 2010
Thursday, June 17, 2010
Choose what You want to Be when You Grow Up
What did you want to be when you grew up? Growing up, I pretended to be a doctor, mommy, banker, singer, dancer, or teacher. My goals, passions, and wants changed as I grew up, but I always knew I wanted to be a mommy and teacher. What a blessing to me that I got to be both! Now when I grow up, I want to be a writer, perhaps a professor, and a grandmother. I chuckle because my daughters are 9, 6, and 4, but the thought does make me smile and time does go by fast.
I truly believe it is important to always be thinking and wondering what it is you want to be when you grow up. I was saddened when I asked this of my fourth grade students my first year of teaching and I had a student who could honestly not think of a single thing she might want to do when she grew up. There was nothing, she was at a blank. This surprised me, because it is when you are young that you are fearless and want to be everything! I was also touched when I had a student write about wanting to be a dad. Wow, that got me at my heartstrings, can you imagine the role model he must have had?
So choose what you want to be when you grow up and know that it is never too late to grow up! I have a friend who became a teacher after her babies, her husband a police officer. After over 10 years on the force, he decided he wanted to be a doctor. He is going through medical school right now at the top of his class and in his late thirties. My OBGYN that delivered all of my girls became a doctor after all her girls were grown! Awesome! It doesn't matter how old you are, or how many times you change your mind, it is your future, so think about it and make it happen!
It is when you know what you want to be when you grow up that you can make new goals for your life and can be excited for your future. So whether it be a vet and/or soccer player (what oldest wants to be), a babysitter (what the youngest wants to be), or an art teacher, so that she can wear a smock, (what the middle one wants to be) think about it...what do you want to be when you grow up?
I truly believe it is important to always be thinking and wondering what it is you want to be when you grow up. I was saddened when I asked this of my fourth grade students my first year of teaching and I had a student who could honestly not think of a single thing she might want to do when she grew up. There was nothing, she was at a blank. This surprised me, because it is when you are young that you are fearless and want to be everything! I was also touched when I had a student write about wanting to be a dad. Wow, that got me at my heartstrings, can you imagine the role model he must have had?
So choose what you want to be when you grow up and know that it is never too late to grow up! I have a friend who became a teacher after her babies, her husband a police officer. After over 10 years on the force, he decided he wanted to be a doctor. He is going through medical school right now at the top of his class and in his late thirties. My OBGYN that delivered all of my girls became a doctor after all her girls were grown! Awesome! It doesn't matter how old you are, or how many times you change your mind, it is your future, so think about it and make it happen!
It is when you know what you want to be when you grow up that you can make new goals for your life and can be excited for your future. So whether it be a vet and/or soccer player (what oldest wants to be), a babysitter (what the youngest wants to be), or an art teacher, so that she can wear a smock, (what the middle one wants to be) think about it...what do you want to be when you grow up?
Tuesday, June 15, 2010
Choose your Words Carefully, because they do hurt and are sometimes not Forgotten
"Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me." This is what we learned and heard growing up. It should be "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but they will heal. Words can damage, hurt, and not be forgotten." Remember that words can be forgiven, but they are never truly forgotten, especially the hurtful, hateful ones.
I remember a shameful time in my life when I was in middle school. I wrote my elementary friend a note with words stating how we shouldn't be friends anymore, we were changing. In my mind, I was justified, I wanted this friend to understand why we weren't hanging out together as much anymore. To this day, I am ashamed of the words that I wrote to that dear friend. I believe she has forgiven me, I have asked for forgiveness, but they were words that I will never forget and am ashamed of.
Whether words are spoken or written, no matter how right you think you are to say or write them, be careful. Especially in this day of technology where people can twitter and fb their status. People write about their emotions, may not be the best idea. Think real hard as to whether these are words that will help, build up, encourage, inspire or will they tear down and never be forgotten. How do you want your words to be remembered? I want my words to be remembered for the good, not the bad!
Be careful when you are angry. In the book City of Ember, one of my favorite parts is when the main character's dad speaks of how anger can bring on unintended consequences. Words, when angry, can come out and be regretted. You may not realize the consequences of those words immediately, but they can damage a person or relationship. Sometimes when I am angry, I am silent, because I know if I speak, it will not be kind or pretty. Sometimes when I am angry, I scream (my poor children), I always ask for forgiveness, but I know that my sweet girls will remember the screaming more than the apology, and it breaks my heart.
Choose not to get drawn into the game of telephone. I'm most guilty of this. I'll talk to another mom and we'll get to talking. (I do like to talk!) I have to be cautious of not getting drawn into talking about others. Those words can get spread very easily and it is not fun trying to take them back.
So watch your words. The Bible says "For out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks." Matthew 12:34. May your tongue be tamed for good.
I remember a shameful time in my life when I was in middle school. I wrote my elementary friend a note with words stating how we shouldn't be friends anymore, we were changing. In my mind, I was justified, I wanted this friend to understand why we weren't hanging out together as much anymore. To this day, I am ashamed of the words that I wrote to that dear friend. I believe she has forgiven me, I have asked for forgiveness, but they were words that I will never forget and am ashamed of.
Whether words are spoken or written, no matter how right you think you are to say or write them, be careful. Especially in this day of technology where people can twitter and fb their status. People write about their emotions, may not be the best idea. Think real hard as to whether these are words that will help, build up, encourage, inspire or will they tear down and never be forgotten. How do you want your words to be remembered? I want my words to be remembered for the good, not the bad!
Be careful when you are angry. In the book City of Ember, one of my favorite parts is when the main character's dad speaks of how anger can bring on unintended consequences. Words, when angry, can come out and be regretted. You may not realize the consequences of those words immediately, but they can damage a person or relationship. Sometimes when I am angry, I am silent, because I know if I speak, it will not be kind or pretty. Sometimes when I am angry, I scream (my poor children), I always ask for forgiveness, but I know that my sweet girls will remember the screaming more than the apology, and it breaks my heart.
Choose not to get drawn into the game of telephone. I'm most guilty of this. I'll talk to another mom and we'll get to talking. (I do like to talk!) I have to be cautious of not getting drawn into talking about others. Those words can get spread very easily and it is not fun trying to take them back.
So watch your words. The Bible says "For out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks." Matthew 12:34. May your tongue be tamed for good.
Saturday, June 12, 2010
Choose a Passion and Remember, People aren't Perfect
Choose a Passion
Whether it be Dancing,
Chickens,
or SoccerYour passion will change as you grow, but none the less, be sure you have one. Having a fire for something gives you the opportunity to continually make goals and strive to become better or learn more. It gives you a reason not to lose who you are as relationships come and go.
Have a passion because people are not perfect. If you give too much of yourself to a relationship, you can become hidden and that is never good. I will tell you right now, people will fail you and if you put all of yourself into a person, it could cause you a world of heartache. The only perfection I know of is God. He will never fail or forsake you. He gives you desires and talents so that He can mold you into becoming the whole person He wants you to be.
So remember to follow your heart as to what it is that God has blessed you with. Be constantly thinking, what is something in me that I want to be passionate about...then run with it!
Tuesday, June 8, 2010
Choose to Remember the Past, but be sure not Dwell on it
The Ugly, the Bad, and the Good
I remember reading as a child books called Choose Your Own Adventure. You begin reading an action story and at the end of the chapter you get to choose what you wanted the character to do. You would choose and then go the page until you came to an ending. I would always read through those books over and over, changing to see what other possible ending I could have made for my character in the book. If only life were that easy!
The past choices made in life are so important because they are what have molded us into what we are today. I think it is so important to learn from the past, remember the highs and lows, but don't make those decisions take a hold of you. Don't get stuck wondering the dreaded question "what if...." about your past.
I'm going to start with the Ugly and bad memories, because I like to end on a good note... This world has so much beauty, but let's be honest, it has some ugly in it as well. I believe there is a spiritual battle for souls daily and have yet to see a pretty picture of a demon.
What amazes me, is the people who have been handed ugly and make beautiful. Are you thinking of the Ugly Ducking as well? There are things in this life that happen to us, that we have no control of. However, the one thing we do have, is the fact that we can choose to remember the ugly, but move on and make ourselves better, event stronger, in spite of it. I will admit, when I hear people talk of sad, horrible memories, stating it is the reason for all of the ugliness in their life, I don't understand why they wouldn't want to take those reasons and learn from them. Don't let the past be an excuse for present choices.
The good memories can be dangerous if dwelled on too much. Always remember to live everday in the present. The thing with good ol' days is we sometimes give them too much credit. We think of a wonderful trip, relationship, friendship, moment in our life and soon forget that they weren't always flowers and sunshine. Our maybe they were, but those days have passed and you need to live for today and tomorrow!
Remember those days fondly, but don't begin thinking that they are better than your present day. Nothing can be better than the present and future, because you get to pick how each day is going to end in the present and get to start over every tomorrow with a clean slate!
So remember the past with a smile, but then move on and remember how you to get to choose your ending right now!
I remember reading as a child books called Choose Your Own Adventure. You begin reading an action story and at the end of the chapter you get to choose what you wanted the character to do. You would choose and then go the page until you came to an ending. I would always read through those books over and over, changing to see what other possible ending I could have made for my character in the book. If only life were that easy!
The past choices made in life are so important because they are what have molded us into what we are today. I think it is so important to learn from the past, remember the highs and lows, but don't make those decisions take a hold of you. Don't get stuck wondering the dreaded question "what if...." about your past.
I'm going to start with the Ugly and bad memories, because I like to end on a good note... This world has so much beauty, but let's be honest, it has some ugly in it as well. I believe there is a spiritual battle for souls daily and have yet to see a pretty picture of a demon.
What amazes me, is the people who have been handed ugly and make beautiful. Are you thinking of the Ugly Ducking as well? There are things in this life that happen to us, that we have no control of. However, the one thing we do have, is the fact that we can choose to remember the ugly, but move on and make ourselves better, event stronger, in spite of it. I will admit, when I hear people talk of sad, horrible memories, stating it is the reason for all of the ugliness in their life, I don't understand why they wouldn't want to take those reasons and learn from them. Don't let the past be an excuse for present choices.
The good memories can be dangerous if dwelled on too much. Always remember to live everday in the present. The thing with good ol' days is we sometimes give them too much credit. We think of a wonderful trip, relationship, friendship, moment in our life and soon forget that they weren't always flowers and sunshine. Our maybe they were, but those days have passed and you need to live for today and tomorrow!
Remember those days fondly, but don't begin thinking that they are better than your present day. Nothing can be better than the present and future, because you get to pick how each day is going to end in the present and get to start over every tomorrow with a clean slate!
So remember the past with a smile, but then move on and remember how you to get to choose your ending right now!
Monday, June 7, 2010
My New Choice and Adventure
I am a child of God, daughter of two incredible parents, sister of many, wife of a man I adore, proud mother of three beautiful girls, teacher, and lover of life.
I have started this blog because I have been blessed to fulfill many goals that I had made as a young child, and I am now ready to start making new ones.
A new goal that has been stirring within me has been to publish a book, childrens or adult. I know, definately not a small one, but who knows? Since I am emphasizing writing to my students and it is not a strength of mine, I figured starting a blog could be a great start.
I have chosen the name of "Choose your own Adventure" because my current desire is to write about how the choices made in life shape the person you are going to become. Pretty simple, yet so important and life changing!
I think of the Indiana Jones movie quote of "You have chosen wisely" sums up another goal in my life. My ultimate goal is for me to live a fulfilled life making choices that will impact others to make good choices as well. Therefore, when I die and go to heaven and get to see my Savior face to face, I pray that I hear him say these words, "You have chosen wisely."
So in this blog, I will include choices I have made in my life, good and bad, choices I observe others making, and choices that I have to make in my everyday life. Big, little, and probably some silly as well. I will discuss things that I want my daughters to learn, understand and live by.
I do not believe that I am a person that is qualified to say what is right or wrong, black or white, or even a certain decision is the only one to make. However, I do feel I have been blessed by my Heavely Father, more than I deserve. This is a new step in my life that I can share to achieve a personal goal that has been put in my heart. Even if noone reads this, I hope my three daughters will be able to reflect on my writings and know that I am a woman who dreams big by choosing my own adventures!
I have started this blog because I have been blessed to fulfill many goals that I had made as a young child, and I am now ready to start making new ones.
A new goal that has been stirring within me has been to publish a book, childrens or adult. I know, definately not a small one, but who knows? Since I am emphasizing writing to my students and it is not a strength of mine, I figured starting a blog could be a great start.
I have chosen the name of "Choose your own Adventure" because my current desire is to write about how the choices made in life shape the person you are going to become. Pretty simple, yet so important and life changing!
I think of the Indiana Jones movie quote of "You have chosen wisely" sums up another goal in my life. My ultimate goal is for me to live a fulfilled life making choices that will impact others to make good choices as well. Therefore, when I die and go to heaven and get to see my Savior face to face, I pray that I hear him say these words, "You have chosen wisely."
So in this blog, I will include choices I have made in my life, good and bad, choices I observe others making, and choices that I have to make in my everyday life. Big, little, and probably some silly as well. I will discuss things that I want my daughters to learn, understand and live by.
I do not believe that I am a person that is qualified to say what is right or wrong, black or white, or even a certain decision is the only one to make. However, I do feel I have been blessed by my Heavely Father, more than I deserve. This is a new step in my life that I can share to achieve a personal goal that has been put in my heart. Even if noone reads this, I hope my three daughters will be able to reflect on my writings and know that I am a woman who dreams big by choosing my own adventures!
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